An "I am right" attitude imposes a barrier on assimilation of wisdom from others and the environment
The dictionary meaning of ego is "I; self of any person; self esteem". However, "egoistic", means conceit and an exaggerated sense of self!
On a day-to-day basis, we come across various forms of ego -- whether it is at home, on the streets or at the office. However, putting up with someone else's enormous ego for a long period of time can be unbearable!
We often notice other people's ego and blame it for things that can go wrong in our lives. For example, if your boss is egoistic, you hold him responsible for lack of your career advancement. You fault your peers for delaying team effectiveness if they have large egos. And, finally, you accuse subordinates of hampering your efficiency if they have inflexible personalities. But, how many times do we actually introspect and recognise the limitations set by our own ego?
Egos are relative. Your ego maybe small in comparison to some and your self-esteem maybe too high. What is vital is, whether you are allowing your ego to get in the way of your development. This is not easy, especially since it involves making an honest assessment of your pattern of reaction as well as your ability to get past yourself and sacrifice your ideas for the sake of others. The influence of ego on a career can be seen in various forms:
1. Inability to accept your mistakes -
This is the most common result of an exaggerated ego! When we refuse to accept our own follies we think that is because we are right! When others do it, we naturally tend to attribute it to their ego. Step back and judge whether you are being adamant because self-esteem is not letting you acknowledge your own errors. It is not easy to be objective and, at such times, seek help from a colleague or trusted friend to observe whether there is a repeated pattern in your conduct.
2. Inability to see another's point of view -
Even if you claim to have a realistic self- image, consciously put yourself in another person's shoes and reflect. We have a tendency to be intolerant during disagreement and dissent. A sizeable ego only amplifies this and it becomes difficult to incorporate another person's judgement into one's own. Your character traits can be an obstruction in tolerating attitudes and ideas that oppose yours.
3. Inability to work in a team -
The natural fallout of the above is the inability to foster successful teamwork and cultivate team spirit if you cannot get past the sense and love of yourself! Team effectiveness is usually sensitive to the behaviour of its members and leaders. Any display of self- rightousness or arrogance is bound to affect the unit and create an atmosphere of discord with low or no cooperation from its members.
4. Influence on decision making -
Often, the ego gets in the way of gathering views and ideas. Increase in work pace, sometimes forces managers to take instant and independent decisions, getting caught up with constraints and circumstances without accommodating divergent thoughts and feelings. But if one is unable to acknowledge one's inadequacies or lack of capability in some ways, conclusions and judgement can be impaired. Impartial resolution on matters requires one to be open minded and not self centred!
5. Limits learning -
Personality characteristics have a huge influence on one's learning. To gain knowledge from others, it is imperative to study how your individual qualities influence your ability to learn. An "I am right" attitude imposes a barrier on assimilation of wisdom from others and the environment. Be aware of how you let yourself be disadvantaged by your rigidity and inability to admit your shortcomings!
The dictionary meaning of ego is "I; self of any person; self esteem". However, "egoistic", means conceit and an exaggerated sense of self!
On a day-to-day basis, we come across various forms of ego -- whether it is at home, on the streets or at the office. However, putting up with someone else's enormous ego for a long period of time can be unbearable!
We often notice other people's ego and blame it for things that can go wrong in our lives. For example, if your boss is egoistic, you hold him responsible for lack of your career advancement. You fault your peers for delaying team effectiveness if they have large egos. And, finally, you accuse subordinates of hampering your efficiency if they have inflexible personalities. But, how many times do we actually introspect and recognise the limitations set by our own ego?
Egos are relative. Your ego maybe small in comparison to some and your self-esteem maybe too high. What is vital is, whether you are allowing your ego to get in the way of your development. This is not easy, especially since it involves making an honest assessment of your pattern of reaction as well as your ability to get past yourself and sacrifice your ideas for the sake of others. The influence of ego on a career can be seen in various forms:
1. Inability to accept your mistakes -
This is the most common result of an exaggerated ego! When we refuse to accept our own follies we think that is because we are right! When others do it, we naturally tend to attribute it to their ego. Step back and judge whether you are being adamant because self-esteem is not letting you acknowledge your own errors. It is not easy to be objective and, at such times, seek help from a colleague or trusted friend to observe whether there is a repeated pattern in your conduct.
2. Inability to see another's point of view -
Even if you claim to have a realistic self- image, consciously put yourself in another person's shoes and reflect. We have a tendency to be intolerant during disagreement and dissent. A sizeable ego only amplifies this and it becomes difficult to incorporate another person's judgement into one's own. Your character traits can be an obstruction in tolerating attitudes and ideas that oppose yours.
3. Inability to work in a team -
The natural fallout of the above is the inability to foster successful teamwork and cultivate team spirit if you cannot get past the sense and love of yourself! Team effectiveness is usually sensitive to the behaviour of its members and leaders. Any display of self- rightousness or arrogance is bound to affect the unit and create an atmosphere of discord with low or no cooperation from its members.
4. Influence on decision making -
Often, the ego gets in the way of gathering views and ideas. Increase in work pace, sometimes forces managers to take instant and independent decisions, getting caught up with constraints and circumstances without accommodating divergent thoughts and feelings. But if one is unable to acknowledge one's inadequacies or lack of capability in some ways, conclusions and judgement can be impaired. Impartial resolution on matters requires one to be open minded and not self centred!
5. Limits learning -
Personality characteristics have a huge influence on one's learning. To gain knowledge from others, it is imperative to study how your individual qualities influence your ability to learn. An "I am right" attitude imposes a barrier on assimilation of wisdom from others and the environment. Be aware of how you let yourself be disadvantaged by your rigidity and inability to admit your shortcomings!
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